Saturday, May 30, 2015

活榜样

从小
对于我的成长教育做了及多的努力与奉献的
无可否认必定是身为母亲的您
那些循循教导与以身作则的正直理念
让我不知不觉的
在知识上与行为品德上一步步健康正确的发展
至今
那些日夜学习严厉责罚的日子记忆犹新
除了当时的小心翼翼谨言慎行外
更多的是长大后回忆起满满的感激与感恩
我非常非常感谢您愿意付出体力精力全身心的教导
总觉得自己是那么的幸运
才能有机会向着思维品行端正并且尽量完善的人随着时间慢慢靠近

您总是不在众目焦点下
也不是到哪儿哪儿就掌声四起的名人
不管任何人的眼光如何
任何人是怎么看待或对待您
在我眼里
您都是最正直最刻苦耐劳的榜样
从来不需要灯光的关照
也不需要耀眼靓丽的闪光
静静的、温柔的、坚韧的……
就是最灿烂最闪耀的存在

母亲
希望您明了
不必要任何人的认可
也不需要无谓的客套
更千万别在意赞美的人有多少
只要得到我们诚心的认同
必定就是最高的荣誉与最温馨回报

Wednesday, May 27, 2015

21 Signs You’re A Rebellious Woman

A rebellious woman has the “audacity” to shun all expectations of what she should be. She is not concerned with people who want to police her body, tell her what to do, or say things like “swearing is not ladylike.” Fuck. Off. Being ladylike is so 1950s. A rebellious woman is more concerned with being her and defining who she is. She sees all the societal pressure that is put on women and simply does not abide. She rebels against this crazy world which keeps trying to tell her who she is. Nope. She’s not even listening.  


1. You adamantly refuse to be the kind of woman the world wants you to be. You shun the status quo and loathe outdated clichés of what it means to be a woman, knowing these antiquated views are holding us all back from expressing ourselves fully. 

2. You abhor all definitions and labels. What does it mean to be a woman? Whatever the hell you, personally make it mean, that’s what. 

3. You radically accept yourself. You know that strength is derived not from being acceptable to others, but about redefining acceptance for yourself all together. 

4. You will never be small or less-than or weak. Your presence is a roar, never a whisper. 

5. If you do care about getting older, it’s within the context of how much more you want to accomplish and do with your life. You resent the implication that all women bemoan getting older because they are so vainly attached to looking young. Bring on the wrinkles—they are a badge of honor.

6. You refuse to feel guilty for eating what you want or for not going to the gym. Your body, your fucking rules. No “guilty pleasures.” Only pleasures. Always. 

7. You don’t judge any woman for her choices. Live and let live. How another woman defines being a woman is not your business. 

8. You dress however you want to dress, refusing to listen to what anyone says about how women should or should not dress. Your clothes are not up for debate, nor are they up for being policed. 


9. You refuse to have a small life. And, you take it upon yourself to define what a Big Life looks like for you. 

10. The word “should” has no room in your vocabulary. The only thing you believe you should do is reject all expectations of what your life should be. 

11. You know your life is yours to build or destroy. To play the victim is to be powerless and you reject the long-held belief that women are weak. You are a force to be reckoned with. 

12. You understand that strength is not cold, distant, or unfeeling. You know that being soft against a hard world is where real strength comes in. 

13. You’ll never say you don’t need anyone. There is nothing brave about hiding away from the world and people. It takes true courage to let people into your heart.

14. You completely and radically own your feelings and emotional reactions. And no, you’re not irrational simply because you feel. It’s irrational to be so numb to the world that you never feel anything at all. 

15. You save yourself. You take responsibility for your own life and make yourself happy. You love yourself. You do not let anyone or anything dictate your worth. 

16. You absolutely refuse to fall into the trap of being unnecessarily competitive with other women. This might be other people’s realities, but it’s not yours.

17. You know that confidence is what actually builds a life. Cowering and deferring to others for your self-esteem will never do anything except keep you trapped. 

18. You have LIVED. You have fought the battles. You will never admit to your life being perfect, because that does a disservice to the work you’ve done. 

19. You happily live in the messy. You screw up like anyone else. You get insecure. You cry. You get angry. You are not ashamed of your story. 

20. You live by one motto: nobody gets to tell you who the fuck you are. 

21. Except you. You get to tell you who the fuck you are. 



1. 你強烈拒絕成為世界要你成為得樣子,那些社會傳統價值只會侷限我們活出真正的自己。

2. 你厭惡所有定義與標籤,為什麼女人要遵從那些東西?只有自己才可以決定自己是怎樣的人。 

3. 你百分之百的接受自己。你知道力量不僅僅會因為被他人接受而茁壯,尤以在當你全然接受自己時更會變得強大。

4. 你拒絕當「渺小的 」、「比較差的」或「弱勢的」一方,你的存在應該要像是獅吼,而非耳邊細語。

5. 如果你擔心變老,那是因為你怕自己來不及做完所有想做的事,而不是害怕自己不再年輕。就算臉上出現皺紋,也不會影響你如何看待自己。

6. 你拒絕在享受美食的時候還要覺得有罪惡感,要不要上健身房也是你自己的選擇,你不會讓別人影響自己做事的方式。

7. 你從不論斷其他女人生活的方式,別人要怎麼過日子是別人的選擇,你只管做好自己。

8. 你只穿自己想穿的衣服,不盲目跟隨流行,也不會因為社會認定女孩該如何打扮就照做。

9. 你拒絕過狹隘沒發展性的生活,渴望用自己的雙眼看世界、走出屬於自己的路。

10. 「必須」這兩個字不會出現在你的字典裡。你相信在人生中,唯一「必須」做的事,是拒絕讓其他人告訴你該如何過你的人生。

11. 你深知唯有自己可以主宰命運。你不相信女性是比較弱勢的一方,且有勇氣去對抗這樣的想法。 

12. 你明白「強勢」不等同於冷淡、距離感或沒感情,用溫柔去對抗這個世界才是真正的力量。 

13. 你絕不會隨口說出「我不需要任何人」這種話。將自己隱藏起來、逃避人群和世界並不是真正的勇敢,讓他人走進自己的心房才是真正需要勇氣的舉動。

14. 你在該理性的時候理性,感性時也大方流露情緒,絕不會因為要讓自己看來強勢就對這個世界冷淡。 

15. 在遇見任何困境時,你都有能力讓自己走出來。你懂得為自己的人生負起全責、讓自己活得快樂;你懂得如何愛自己,更不會讓任何人影響你的價值。

16. 你拒絕掉入跟其他女人做無謂競爭的陷阱裡。

17. 你知道擁有自信、接受全部的自己才能真正開始過生活。因為他人的看法而畏縮或是覺得自己不夠好只會讓你永遠都走不出屬於自己的路。 

18. 你用力過活,勇敢面對每次的挑戰,你絕不會說自己的的人生很完美,因為你愛自己曾經陷入絕望中也克服過來事實。

19. 就算在紛亂中你也懂得讓自己快樂的活下去。就像其他人一樣,你也會把事情搞砸、會因為沮喪而哭泣、會感到不安或生氣,但你也坦然面對這樣真實的自己,更不會為任何一部分的自己感到羞愧。

20. 你相信「沒有任何人可以告訴你你該成為怎樣的人」。 

21. 當然除了你以外。因為你才是那個可以決定自己要成為什麼樣子的人。



那些所谓

因为喜欢?
因为热诚?
因为梦想?
都看起来太幼稚。
就是要来源
就是要稳定
就是要一样
这看起来才是对。

才发觉
那些强而有力的
只在于你有没有“钱”力
不然都会变成
最苍白矛盾
最无能为力
的反驳。

可能之后我会后悔为何不听劝告
可能之后我会纳闷怎么那么固执
可能之后我会收回说过的这些话
但我还是要说:
我不能接受,也不会接受,那些所谓的无法改变或必须服从的现实。别人牺牲乐趣换来实际,我宁可牺牲实际换来兴趣。也许这些都是风凉大话,因为我要让我的选择风光。对不起可能我叛逆无礼有些疯狂。